Wednesday, March 26, 2014

About Approval and Demand, or "How Can You Move the Earth Through One Spot"

                        "Give me one point to stand on, and I will move the Earth." - Archimedes

Suddenly, when you are approved of, you are happy.

That revolutionary sensation that only someone standing in front of you can give you: that you have an undisputed, unconditional place; regardless of reality, regardless of season. That within you, within your uniqueness, there is an internal place that will exist forever and eternally have a place in the world. This is how the person facing you makes you happy and gives you his approval.

There is here a very fragile sensitivity, but its power is great.

You are being approved of. There is a concealed part within you - that even you do not understand completely, which is given an undisputed place. And now, all of the storms, all of the arguments, all of the challenges, all of the hardships and disagreements can come and they are suddenly not so bad, not so final, and not so cold. Not everything is dependent on them. Suddenly everything is not so dependent on these things. What freedom! The painful dependence has disappeared.

There is now the place to make mistakes, to receive, to be angry and to demand.

And you feel as though someone has found within you that same "Archimedean point," that inner-point that will not disappoint, that, with its help, it is possible to move the entire world.

Now, suddenly, a place for demand is created, as if by itself. A great place. The demand stops being external, hostile or foreign. It becomes natural and warm. The difficulty still exists within it, and it can still hurt, but it's a difficulty of warmth, of contact. It no longer has within it the cold and distant sting of judgment, the threatening sward of loneliness, "If you don't do this, than you will no longer have a place."

You are approved of, and then demanded of, demanded of and then approved of. And suddenly something is cleared up for you - that the demand of you is an extension of the approval. That only those who truly demand of you, with warmth and with feeling, can approve you and vice versa.

And without words, you are demanded, maybe, to speak the most beautifully, the most difficultly - you also must approve of - the person facing you.

Only you can do this. What a simple wonder, and so difficult! And only you can give him - the person in front of you - make him feel approved of and happy. And now, it is possible to imagine, to desire, and to demand - an approving, demanding, and happy tzevet, and approving and demanding society.     A happy society.

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